Take a break from dating

“It’s easy to lose your sense of self-worth, and your self-esteem can plummet.This can prevent you from meeting someone who’s good for you—and have a bad effect on other parts of your life.” So if you find yourself telling friends defeatedly after another lame date, “This always happens to me; guys don’t think of me as girlfriend material,” that’s a big red flag that you need to take yourself out of the game and sit on the bench for awhile, until you can shore yourself back up through other people, activities, and even therapy if you think it’s necessary.

Not that you AREN’T a super-desired, gorgeous dating beast, just that it’s important to allow enough time in between each dating experience to see if the person is actually right for you. Sometimes taking rejection badly can be a sign that you haven’t gotten over something in the past or that you’re getting your hopes up too soon with men. Strategically taking a break for a month or two and finding out what makes you tick is great, but often, people turn a break from dating in to a stance where they hide from dating in fear.

“Dating for dating’s sake” can lead to a lot of failed experiences finding love. Often this happens when there has been a big long deadly desert since the last time you met someone who you hit it off with. The more they avoid getting out there, the worse it gets.

“The most important thing women need to do is stay true to what they want,” says Gibson.

“If they know what they want in a partner, they need to commit to that—don’t just go out with someone because they’re good-looking.

It’s easy to become overly dependent on digital dating, but it’s important to create opportunities for meeting people offline, too, says Davis Edwards.